What Is Sensual Domination?
by Ms. Delia of www.begformistress.com
You may have a pre-conceived notion of what BDSM, or D/s is all about. No doubt that idea of what a "true" Femdom scene is all about has been colored by things you have read or porn you have watched. Perhaps your only exposure to Female Domination has been the whip wielding, leather wearing, stiletto boot stomping Domina. She yells and calls you pathetic and worthless, and any small misstep you make brings instant punishment. She never smiles, and might even approach the whole scene in a very clinical, distant sort of way.
That's what I call Hard Core Domination, and for some submissives, this is their idea of nirvana. For a lot of others though, it just turns them off to the whole scene.
There is another way!
Sensual Domination and BDSM
In fact, there are lots of other ways to practice BDSM. Despite what you read, despite what some Domme or submissive may have told you on some internet message board somewhere, there is not one "true" way to be a submissive or even a Dominant for that matter. Some Mistresses like to play a much more sensual kind of game. Now, Ms. Delia can go either way - Hard Core or sensual - but let's talk about sensual domination.
Being a Sensual Domme is fun! There's nothing wrong with either of us laughing during a scene. I could be laughing at your pathetically small penis, the panties you are wearing or just how crazy and desperate my teasing and denial of your throbbing hard cock is making you. When I call you a slut, a whore or my bitch, it's a term of endearment, one which you are proud and happy to take. Sensual domination can be a very relaxed tease and denial session, a dress-up scene for one of my sissy sluts, or a verbal humiliation scene. In these scenes you feel more relaxed and sexual.
CFNM and Sensual Domination
CFNM - Clothed Female, Naked Male - are excellent sensual domination scenes. Having a naked sub before me, exposed and vulnerable, where I can see every effect of just what I'm doing to him is very powerful. Add to that the humiliation of his being naked, while I am still dressed, and thinking about the thoughts running through his head as he can only imagine what I look like under all those clothes makes my panties damp.
Impact Play, Nipple Play, and CBT
Pain play is usually in the realm of Hard Core Domination, but impact play, nipple play or CBT can be part of a sensual play session. Over-the-knee spankings CAN be very sensual, and if you like to have your ass warmed and reddened, that can be part of our scene. Imagine me taking you over my knee, administering a slow spanking, all while I speak softly to you and tell you how proud I am of you. Or pinching and rubbing your nipples while I slowly stroke your cock and bring you to edge after edge.Just remember, BDSM can be anything you want it to be! So, if you want your domination sensual, give a Mistress who specializes in sensual domination a call.